In life each of us encounter many people on a daily basis. Whether it be at the supermarket, at the gym, at our church, heck even in our neighborhoods. People come and go and that's what makes life so interesting! I have a handful of friends in my life that I completely and utterly rely on. They serve as rocks - some I have known since I was in middle school, others I have known for a few short years or less. I am a person that tends to feed off of other peoples moods - well rather I tend to take things way too personally, think it's my fault and travel down this stupid idiotic road where I'm blaming myself and thinking I should have handled things differently. One of these extremely wise friends of mine said to me one day, "You cannot control other people's emotions"
WOW...ding -ding -ding!! Huge light bulb went off in my head!! How right she is!! Why had I never thought of that before? It was as if I just climbed out from under some rock that had been covering me for 35 years!
We as humans are so worried about all the things that are going on around us. We play hard, and move fast and do way too much at once! (That's an entirely different topic that actually a great friend and positive energy in my life recently blogged about - check it out: http://aapfitness.wordpress.com/2011/02/11/as-dr-seuss-would-say-stuck-in-a-bubble-and-in-trouble/) My point is this - as my wise and dear friend said to me, we cannot control other peoples emotions...just like we cannot control other peoples actions or feelings! BUT - what we can control is our own actions, feelings and how we life our lives!
Is it easy? Is anything in life worth fighting for easy?? NO of course not!! I get down and sad when my teenager gets upset at me because she doesn't like something I said, I take it personally but I have to learn to stop it. It's toxic and you know what she's an 18 year old girl - her life is crazy to begin with and she herself is going through a lot of changes and ups and downs - I know someday our relationship will be amazing again!! I love you Pau!!! But in the meantime, I have to not let her moods or other peoples moods impact me! I cannot control how they feel or act!!
I have moments where I want to eat cake and ice cream and have a pity party for myself - but does that really honestly do any good at the end of the day? I'm not saying we have to walk around with this eternal positive glow around us - heck no. Life is tough sometimes, things get in the way but it's how we react, recover and move forward! I've been feeling a little down in the dumps the past few days about my body and the changes that it's going through, let's face it I expect to wake up and be one of those glowing, supermodel pregnant chicks - NOT GOING TO HAPPEN SHARON! But, I cannot let that fester and control me!!
So where am I going with all this? Life is short - it's going to fly by - enjoy every day, every moment whether good or bad because once it's gone we cannot get it back! Don't let others around you dictate how you feel about yourself. Remember we cannot control how they feel!! I think once we all grasp the power of those tiny little words and own it, things look a lot different!
Enjoy today and all the little precious moments that will fill it!
S.
I love you so so so much! Never forget it.
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